Watchers Journal... The nitty gritty - relationships. Get your LOVE ON!

So I took a FB toll and writing a blog on 'my' perception of relationships won.  Oh Joy!  Here it goes.  It's my two cent worth, I am not a counselor, psycologist or psychiatrist.  I'm merely an observer...the Watcher.

Love potion #99

'From my hearts desire, I do make it so, and seal it with a kiss.' (Their disclaimer - For entertainment purposes only. Magic supplied by you. from Love Spell by Charmed in Company)

 

You can't pour a love potion and make them all fall in love.  You can however make a self love potion #inside.  Love yourself without narcissism.  How can you know how to love another if you don't love yourself?

 

Two parts bitter zero part sugar

 

You don't need to be healed enough to be worthy of love, but you may need to heal before you're ready for your soul mate. You deserve love, as broken or complete as you are. (from Love Alchemist's notebook by Jessica Shepherd)

Get over it!  Whoever did whatever to you does not deserve the power to change who you are.  Forget them and their predator ways, that will be the best payback.  Most predators don't like being forgotten.

When the charming, loving person is really a psychopath, sociopath, narcissist, pathological liar, cheater, abusive or a bit of each..... GET THE F OUT OF THERE!  Really?? Is there any other advise for that? Think... Sleeping with the enemy (with Julia Roberts).  Than go all Enough (with J Lo).

 

I sat and wrote some of the complaints I have heard recently by friends, people at work - just about everywhere.... and my take.

 

He doesn't want to have sex, too tired

No man is too tired to have sex, that's a fact. Even when so exhausted they fall out asleep, junior member there is tapping a thigh and if it could talk it would say 'wassup, how about tonight you do all the work, make it up to you when he's awake.'  A woman can get her libido on just as easily too.

Too tired = something else is going on. Do the elimination process.  See if there is something bothering the person, unresolved issues.  Are you two 'making' time for one another?  If the answer is yes -  Shave it, wax it, Febreeze it, stop whining, bytching, be sensual and if that doesn't work, hire a detective cause those swimmers are breeching another pool.

She nags too much

It's a no brainer. You're not listening. PERIOD. Women don't just nag. They want to be heard, some I agree want to be heard over and over, but that's both genders. Nagging is just a form of Passive Aggressive request. Basically we are trying not to beat your deaf dumb ass by repeatedly asking you to do simple stuff that your brain dead ass should already know how to do.

The ring he got me is too small

Unless he's a Rockefeller or a Gates be grateful you got one. If that doesn't convince you, here's another way to look at it... He wants your selfish ass, take it and run before he realizes what piranha you really are. Seriously???? There are too many hungry, jobless and sick people in this world for me to understand 10K rings and 100K weddings.

She is making this wedding a production

It's your wedding too. Grab hold of your nuts and remind everyone who is paying and what you want. Don't be a miser either. Balance is everything.

I think he/she is cheating on me

We were given instincts for a reason. Unless you have multiple personality or are seriously insecure... your instincts are telling you something so LISTEN.

He/She is cock/pussy whipped

Love these whiners. If a significant other wants to pamper or be pampered, then so be it. As long as there is no berating, denying of rights and/or mistreating I don't see any reason for others to complain. 

 

If a sex treat is on the plan then kudos for them and it only sucks to be you.  Remembering that some pampering is just awesome goes a long way in relationships.  Appreciating one another is not sexist it's sexy.

Seven year itch

There is no itch. She/he is bored with your azz. Spice it up!  Put a wig on, smack him when he walks in and demand he kiss you for it.  Call her up and tell her in a soft voice all the things you're going to do to her when  you get home.  FOLLOW UP on it!  Get your Paprika ON!

I can't live without him/her

If your weak ass is that dependent then by all means jump off the bridge. Only a socio path wants someone that dependent.

 

Love is hard work

 

Love is not hard work.  Building a tunnel, bridge or tower is hard work.  Life or love is not hard, people make it so!

The nitty gritty on relationships is knowing what love is and is not.  It's written best and I have copied it for you here (from Corinthians 13:4):

 

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.

It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails.

Are you loving yourself, others...love itself?  Get your LOVE  ON!!!

Watcher's Journal...Authors, opinions, cheapskate Oh my

I have been blessed enough to begin a wonderful and constant communication with Authors, writers, bloggers and more.  I have been on Twitter for years although my latest account is fairly new.  I found that I started out not knowing who I wanted to Tweet with.  It took a couple of years to finally decide to close the original account and let @gracey_castro begin a new venture.


I follow and have a plethora of followers but most are writers.  I find them inspirational.  I have expanded my reading genre like never before and find myself reading more and writing more.


What I have also noticed is the disregard to the fact that they write for a living.  I had a heated discussion with a friend who knows I purchase books on a weekly basis, whether actual paper books or downloads.  Mostly downloads since getting my Kobo (still dreaming about the Nook color).  She asked me to send her all the ones I read.  I told her I would send the links for her to purchase.  The discussion began.


Her reasons why:

1. Why pay when you already have it?
2. They make tons of money anyway.
3. I can't afford to purchase at the rate I read.

My reasons for getting my Rican up:

1. Because I paid!  I paid someone for their product.  Same as when you paid for that $400 purse.
2. At $.99 to $5.00 a download I seriously doubt it.
3. Read the first entry on my reasons.

It's like when someone asked me when I worked for a retail store 'hey can you get me some stuff, you know - five finger discount'.


It is just insulting and infuriating.  I am no thief.  Nor would I ask someone else to steal for me let alone for someone else.  I am not going to assist 'cheapskates' in saving $5.00 when they literally just spent $400 on the ugliest purse I ever seen (yes, I said that).  I most definitely would not assist anyone in stealing.


The best money you can spend is on a book.  You might just learn something.  Another friend criticized, asking what could I possibly learn from a Paranormal book.  Well...just with the latest one I learned that even in mystical writing there is hope for humanity.  Lessons of love, kindness and survival.  I also learned that I use than and then wrong.

Opinions



#OccupyWallSt - to this day people are saying and writing that they laugh at the protest since they don't even know what they want.  Well...it just so happens that THEY DO have a list!  An opinion to me only counts if it is a valid choice of words based on experience or fact.  Otherwise it is just BULLSHIT and I can get that anywhere.  I am amazed on the social networks the hostility over opinions.  If one does not agree with another they are 'idiots' to just name one word used often enough.  Worse yet, the converters, those that just keep at it until they convert others.  Even on something as simple as a post where someone wrote 'I really like Star Wars'.  The hate and debates on his post were incredible.  How about sharing opinions? There's a thought!

Ahhh...but I stray.  The moral of the post on this blog is this...
If you can afford it - buy it and stop bullying others to encourage your scamming ways.
Remember - others are making a living too.
Tell someone you like their work.  How many books have you read? How many times have you taken the time to appreciate both the book and the author?
Agree to disagree - the wonderful thing about Humanity is our differences.
Tweet it, FB like it and/or G+ it, spread the word - I LIKED IT!

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The Watcher sees......

The Watcher sees and writes.....
She walks along with an air of privilege cutting lines while talking on the cell phone.  Hopping on the first cab that pulls over.  The quick and arrogant act causes a line of people to go through shock than anger.

He listens in on the conversation, then jumps right in with negativity.  Has a crack or two usually out of spite.  Yet...a real whiner if the tables are turned.

He says one thing, does another.  He complains of the lack of trust, yet thinks his repeating is not known.  The innocent look fooling no one.

She says one thing and always means another.  She gets upset when people don't understand her.

They sit in a group, always the same people.  Always the same conversation.  They fester about the world and how unfriendly it is.  A person greets them...........they snicker.

She washes clothes.  She uses several machines.  He walks by and snidely comments on how much money she must be spending on all those loads.  She says hello and how are you.  He grumbles and leaves.

I heard someone tell another 'What a miserable world we live in'.  I hear one tell another 'Life is so hard'.  I shake my head at it all.

The Watcher observes....
Life is not hard.  It just is.  People make it hard.
The world is not miserable, the world just is.  People make it miserable.

To feel as though your very presence is a heralding is something that I am sure your maker and you will discuss one day.  Until then...it would be much nicer if people just remembered we share this world.

How many times do you cut a line?  That rush in the market, a sneaky stealth?  I have been with people that really make a to do about it.  If you are in that much of a rush, LEAVE EARLIER.

Are you the conversation stalker?  Do you listen in then think you have the right to comment, judge or criticize over what you bent over backwards to hear?

Are you so confused that you say one thing and do another?  That nerve racking a$$ that then gets miffed when someone gets upset about it?  Be consistent or at least honest.

Do you say things you don't mean?  Just agree with everything?  Try having an opinion of your own.  No one really appreciates a parrot.  It's like talking to the mirror.  It's also like saying one thing and doing another.

Are you in a click?  Every day with the same people?  Having the same conversations.....about other people?  That has to be miserable.  How can you know so much (I say that with sarcasm) if you don't branch out?  That person to your left and right can't know more if they are always with you and not branching out themselves.

Are you getting older and grumpier?  You can't say anything nice so you pose a question indicating a complaint or annoyance?  Get over it.  Yes, there are younger people out there, yes, they can be annoying, yes you were once them too.

Are you?  Do you?  How many times?....  be a watcher.  Watch what you may be like and see if you can make a difference and not just complain about it.