Despicable they......SUE! SUE I SAY!

You can't have a conversation these days without people suggesting to sue.
You also can't just give minimal detail, these days people want to know EVERYTHING and think you are antisocial for not complying.

I sprained my foot.  The inner side of the boot cracked and the really good gel sole I bought kept me from noticing.  After days of walking 20 something blocks for a project at work in freezing weather did not help.  The sleepless nights with stress from work and personal life, did not help.  Basically I was running on low and numb.

By the time I found that there was something seriously wrong my foot was double the size and the healing time was extended to weeks.

17, that's how many people told me to sue the boot company.

During this time I was driving to work since the Dr said the commute was out of the question.  Actually my son drove.  One day we went over a pot hole that destroyed the tire, hub and rod.

6, that's how many people told me to sue the highway.  There would have been more but not many knew I was driving in.

Pretty much everyone had unwanted advice ranging from natural foods for inflammatory foot to what type of pain killers to ask for.  None of these people have any type of medical degree or culinary schooling.

Long gone are the days of easy conversation.
What happened to your foot?
Oh, I sprained it.
Gee, too bad, I hope it gets better quickly.
Thanks.

There, conversation done, on to better topics.

No one offered a ride to the Dr.  A ride to work.  A ride to the train.  Just a lot of useless unwanted advice.  Heck I was immobile for 3 days, I got a lot of advice but no soup or sandwich.

It took an old co-worker that I hadn't seen in 5+ years to offer to take me about to get the tire issue resolved.  No questions asked, just helped me get around and get the car situated.

Long gone are the days of caring and doing something just because we are human and caring.

In this economy it does shock me that people still use the 'just sue' advice.  In this day of instant knowledge it amazes me that people think anyone needs medical or food advice.

I am just about sick of the 'I eat well and only natural foods' people.  Fanatics!  Judgmental tree huggers.  A co-worker one day announced that he was going to out live us all (all co-workers), because he eats well and does push ups every few hours.  Wouldn't it be a hoot if he died of something completely unrelated to food?

I am just about sick of the know it alls 'Did you do this.. did you try that...did you did you did you' SHUT UP! already.  I was not born yesterday.  I have survived this far without you!

I am sick of the not on the top of the list people 'Why didn't you call me? Why didn't you ask....'  If you are not calling me, then it's pretty sure that we are not communicating and therefore why the hell would I think to call you.  Furthermore, if I am in drastic pain and putting myself in a coma with pain killers, chances are I can't call anyone.  If I eventually call you and update you, just LISTEN!  Refer to conversation above.

I am sick of the self proclaimed IN people 'You should see this Dr.  You should go to this specialist.'  DIDN'T you HEAR ME, I WENT to a DR and SPECIALIST!  Yours isn't the only one!

Saving the best for last.  The I know every way to get over people 'Oh great, you can go on disability.  Get notes and take a long period off.'  That these people have jobs is the shock of a lifetime.  That THEY are the reason the rest of us suffer escapes their mentality.  That THEY are the reason few can afford insurance, co-pay or even medication escapes them.  Actually I think they don't care.  Thieves!  No other way to put it.

Me?  I just want to heal, pay my dues and keep dreaming of a peaceful day.  Until then I take the moments I can gather and wish for the best.  Oh...and keep dreaming of conversations worth having, that is when people actually let you finish talking these days.

Despicable they...

Time for another round....

Despicable they...

Passive Aggressive (PA) -  It is characterized by an obstructionist or hostile manner that indicates aggression, or, in more general terms, expressing aggression in non-assertive, subtle (i.e. passive or indirect) ways.

I think society is full of them.  As if Type A (I want to rule the world but still seem wonderful) people aren't bad enough,  you have the PA group floating about with an alligator smile.

Let's break it down

The Encyclopedia PA - These people read all day, they don't really research, they just skim through enough to try and fool people into thinking they are worldly.  Fact is, these E/PA rarely get out, have no friends and are probably shunned by their own family.  Worse...they don't know shit!


The I am going to hate you for no reason but act like I really like you PA, let's call them Asshole PA for short (A/PA) - These people go out of their way to converse with you.  They always ask a lot of questions as if interested.  They also smile a lot - a smile that never reaches their eyes.  They will then talk to anyone about you.  Trying to create a hate cult.


The I love you but love you not PA, better known as MindF^&Ks PA (MF/PA) - These people love you when they see you, don't even think about you when they don't.  You're their best kept secret and mostly are too ashamed to admit they know you.


The Blind PA  (B/PA) - These people pretend to see nothing, they know everything but see nothing.  They will not be a witness unless they are getting something out of it.  No matter the circumstances.


The Handicap PA  (H/PA) - These people instantly become handicaps when you walk in.  They can't do anything, fix anything, resolve anything because they know you will do it.  Once you leave they are very self sufficient.  Lazy to the core.


The Planner PA  (P/PA) - These people act and react like victims the whole while thinking of ways to retaliate.  It's not revenge per say, more like - others will feel my misery.  If caught or questioned they will revert to full blown victim mode.


The Narcissist PA  (N/PA) - These people love themselves and will whine to no end until you devote your energy to them.  They are remnants of slave owner mentality.

Which one of the above are you?  Which ones surround you?

AndMore...Despicable they (it's been a while)

AndMore...Despicable they (it's been a while)

Hiatus is over!!!!

Let's start with a good ole Despicable They:

In the trains:
The nose picker that flings the booger not caring who is watching.....
The conductor that spits while he yells.....

In the cabs:
The driver that talks on the phone ignoring your instructions and taking the long way, for an extra meter run
The driver that slows enough to see if the person is someone they want to taxi, if not they turn the Off Duty light for a block
The person that gets out, taking their time and blocking your way to get into the cab

In the supermarkets:
The one that leaves their purse in the cart, wide open...
The one that leaves their child in the cart, one or two aisles away...
The cashier that is talking to the bagger...endlessly while the line grows longer...
The manager that is never around...probably in a fetal position under his desk when the cashier yells VOID!!

Lovers:
The one that thinks years later all is the same
The one that thinks years later all should be different

Family:
The one that promises and does not deliver
The one that calls only when they need money
The one that betrays you for a buck

Friends:
The one that doesn't realize they have thrown you under the bus
The one that realizes they threw you under the bus but thinks you don't realize
The one that wonders why the friendship ended (their fingerprints on the knife in your heart)
The one that borrows and doesn't pay back, avoiding you like the plague

Co Workers:
The one that preaches of team work but throws EVERYONE else under the bus (busy bus)
The one that hates everyone for any reason
The bitter one that doesn't allow anyone to enjoy a minute at work
The one that takes all the credit when in fact doing NOTHING

General:
The one that makes an offer laced with prettiness but is really hiding a motive
The one that stands in your way then curses you for blocking them
The one that throws their trash in the street then complains about how dirty it is
The one that does not pick up the SHIT their dog left behind

Despicable!!!!  All of them!!!!

What's your list???

Despicable they...May there be gratitude

I know, I know... it's the day before Thanksgiving, but perhaps this list will remind some to be grateful if nothing else than for not being one of them.  We'll do it in categories

Personal group
I'm here for you


You know this type, they say it because it sounds nice, but if they do mean it and they rarely do, there's a motive.  The price will be somewhere along your morals or sanity.

I'm your friend (always stated after they did something wrong to you) - see pic above
This type doesn't know how to be a friend, probably doesn't know what it means.  They just want you to think you mistook their obvious malice for.....obvious malice.

I understand...I know exactly what you mean

This person did not hear a thing you said.  They heard words here and there and decided it was time to make it about themselves.  Because being an eternal victim is the best job they ever had.

(The one that goes missing for weeks on end, then shows up like they say you an hour ago)

This person just wants something...cash, sex, to borrow something or to have a few moments of feeling good about themselves.  That moment they showed up has nothing to do with you.

I don't have a drinking problem

These people have empty bottles all over the place.  They deny having an issue while wobbling to their car.  They usually laugh at those that care on Facebook because they don't have a drinking problem, everyone is just crazy.  They also scam, lie, cheat their way through life thinking everyone owes them something.  Greatest backstabbers you will ever meet.  They also live the life of eternal victims.

The strangers group
Straphanger

They run into the train, pummeling all in their way because yet again they are running late, they hold the train doors open which causes more delays.  They then smile the brightest 'I'm here' smile to everyone.  I would love to touch these people with a cattle prod.

The not so homeless

These are the ones that are dressed better then you with a prepared speech on how their lives are a mess, broke, hungry (usually weigh more then you) and are terribly hurt to have to bother and beg.  They even say they will take food but frown when someone actually gives them food.

Workers

The ones that took the mandatory Psych 101 class and feel they are the Counselor for everyone.  Usually think they are better then everyone including God as they rarely believe he exists.  They long for conversation but when they have one they feel the need to abruptly end it wanting to be alone with mock pride.  I would like to touch these people with  TWO cattle prods

The one that complains endlessly about their job, they are usually paid well and do nothing...but complain that is.

Animals

I don't give a rats ass what PETA person reads this but if I ever find the Pigeon lady that throws buckets of crumbs and I do mean BUCKETS along the streets, making those rats with wings attack anyone that is walking along that street, I am SHOVING THE CATTLE PROD UP HER ASS.

The dog walker that still gets bothered when people are smoking.  It's been 3 years GET OVER IT.

Closing

If I had to be grateful for something and I always am grateful for something, today it would be the fact that I am not any of the above.  I would just cattle prod myself to death.

Despicable they Part 5...Men Madness

Another dose of Despicable They.  This time for the MEN! After Diva Dumbness I got some slack.  Silly people, I have enough bitching for 'everyone'.


How many of these do you know?  How many do you resemble?  I have met, dated, married, loved, worked with or am related to each.  They EXIST!




General consensus - 

Men don't know any better.  I recently spoke of a hurt caused to me and how frustrating it was that the guy didn't even realize.  The response I got was 'Men are just stupid'.  Imagine my surprise when a co-worker said the same thing.  AND...he is a man!


I don't buy it!  At all! I think it is easy to just not try to think of how ones words can hurt.  Ones actions or in-actions.  Especially if you know that man was raised well.  At times you just have to admit it....you don't give a shit and you just don't bother to think before you speak.

The whole pie - 



Gotta love these men.  They want it all!  Usually think they deserve it all simply for just existing.  Charming...apologetic...serial womanizers.  Usually whether married or not they keep you as their deepest darkest secret.  Along with the other women in their lives.

Ulterior motives- 

I really despise people (men or women) with an ulterior motive.  It's lying!  Period!  Ulterior motivated men start out by pretending to be what they know you want, reel you in then stop.  Before you know it you think you're with someone that has multiple personality when in fact, you are now meeting the real person.  It's a mind fuck!  It's not just with romance either they do this to ANYONE in their lives.  Usually get along great with the charmers, since they ultimately want to be one.


Just a joke... really! I'm just kidding! (can't you take a joke!_ -

These critters like to test the waters.  They insult and/or do their best to upset you.  Once that has been accomplished and they realize your anger is worse then they thought or remembered; they add the 'Just kidding - just a joke' words.  Which basically means...'to top it all off I think your stupid enough to not know the difference'.  Usually just pathological liars with a touch of narcissism. Some will admit to it if they know they don't stand a chance with you.

Woman are just bitches - 



Bitter and immature.  That's the long and short of it.  These guys are just bitter.  Not letting go of any hurt they feel and making every women that comes along the target of their pain.  Also blames every women in existence for the pain that may have been caused by one and yet still wants a relationship...or so they think.  They try to come across as normal but really just have an ax to grind, never turn your back to them.

Shame really.  Honesty is the best policy.  You don't waste years of your life or someone else's if you are just honest.  If you have to lie then you have something in your life  you are not happy with and really... you just have to have the courage to change it.


That's it folks.  Don't know when the next Despicable They will be...but I am sure plenty enough people will get my venting mojo going to keep them coming.
 


For Despicable They - Diva Dumbness click on the below link as I wrote that one on my site:


http://www.graceycastro.com/andmore.php?SessionID=724309864e930fd32893f

Despicable They #2

It is daily...the horror.  Daily I watch people treat one another in despicable ways.

Today's top 10 Despicable They!

Of course this postings list will commence with commuters again...they just give me so much material.

1. The DUMBASS (early twenties female) that literally pushes all out of her way, zig-zagging and running to get a seat.  Elderly and  handicaps beware!  She doesn't care!
2. The one that stands in the way of the turn stile while digging through her purse for the Metro Card instead of allowing anyone else to get through.
3. The foreigner that barely speaks English and will use the English language on the Metro refill station.  Even though the machine has multiple languages to use.  Learn English elsewhere please.
4. The perv that places his crotch closer then necessary to a woman's face while standing, when there are several seats available and/or enough room to hold on while standing without violating anyone.
5. That person that does something as an act of kindness but really has a motive behind the act.
6. That woman that refuses to return a greeting EVERY MORNING, I mean really...really??? Saying good morning is that HARD????  Tomorrow I will flip her the bird.
7. That guy that thinks because he messed with your head years ago he can do it at will - years later.
8. That person that bugs the shit out of you to see you then makes other plans.  Seriously????
9. The gas station attendant that makes you have a melt down because you don't open the gas door quick enough.
10. The Quick Chek clerk that won't take care of you until she has finished flirting with her co-worker.  Multitasking clearly misunderstood by the next generation!

Have a list of your own?  Any of the above on it???  Wouldn't surprise me - ONE BIT!

The Watcher's Notes: Despicable They

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Despicable They

I thought of adding the page Despicable They to my www.graceycastro.com site.  But then I thought, heck...I could have plenty material and keep posting.  So...the page is now part of the blog.

Today's DESPICABLE THEY will be......(drum roll please)......commuters!

It is daily...the horror.  Daily I watch people treat one another in despicable ways.

Today's top 10 Despicable They!

I see it all the time -

1. The pregnant woman that is shoved and pushed by others so they can get to an empty seat.
2. Women are usually the ones to offer up their seats to a pregnant woman. If anyone does at all.
3. The woman that most mornings is on the same train as I.  Picking her nose and flinging her findings. I seriously think she aims at something.
4. The men that are tall and can easily grasp the top handle bar but use the lower side ones and let the little people stand on their tippy toes.
5. The people that spit without looking to see who is coming up along side them.
6. The man that on a daily basis shoves people out of the way so he can get into the path first.
7. The news that boldly states e-coli all over the subways because of people that don't wash their hands.  Seriously...how do you get shit on your hands!!!  How do you not wash them??? Don't believe me? Read it:  http://www.metro.us/newyork/local/article/931204--hang-tense-how-to-surf-the-ny-subway
8. The person that intentionally walks aiming at you with a look that says 'Go ahead - don't move so I can walk all over you'.  Then gets upset when you don't move...clearly because there is a BUILDING on your right and they are hogging up the sidewalk.
9. The street vendor that sweats all over the food he is selling, occasionally wiping said sweat with sleeve.
10. The guy that while reading on his Kindle shoves his hand up his ass to scratch, repeatedly from Grove St. to 33rd (that's a lot of stops and a lot of scratching).  This must be one of the e-coli spreaders.

Bytch fest

I was called a hater.  So let me do some HATING!

Let's list the type of USELESS people there are out there:

The I'm so important I'm going to annoy you person - this person pretends that their life is so important they cut lines, push their way through, talk on the phone to staff and berate them and just when you think you had enough of them in a confined bus, their phone rings with the most annoying high pitch tone.

The I have an answer for everything person - this asswipe never lets you finish talking, with the first three words you say they are either; correcting your grammar, giving senseless advise, a history lesson or anything that can put you in a COMA.

The woe is me person - this friendless motherfucker asks you how you are.  It's a TRAP! They cut you off just to tell you about their pain, misery, love life, lack of love life, colonoscopy appointment or their dead parents tormenting way of raising kids.

The I know so much NASA should hire me person - This SOUND OFF jackass will turn any simple conversation into Einsteins' formula.  And get it wrong every fucking time.

The victim - this is the person you love to beat the crap out of.  Always starts with your sympathizing with them until you realize that they are professional victims.  This trap is a hard one.  You just don't see it coming....EVER!

The predator - this psychopath circles your life like a shark, while smiling like an alligator and smelling like an Angel.  You might as well hand over your check, life, spouse, job and heart.  They will get it anyway.

The joker - this person will turn any conversation into a joke.  Usually these people have a lot to hide, no inner humor and are just mocking you.  I can relate to this type.

The planner - HATE THESE MOTHERFUCKERS!  They plan EVERYTHING.  Oh my GOD - don't even think about swaying from the plan they will have a MELT DOWN.  These people are the ones that FUCK everyone elses schedule up.

The debater - I could just SHOOT these people like a duck hunt.  They just want to debate so they can sound like they know shit and they always DON'T.  HATES THESE MOTHERFUCKERS TOO!
If I could have a planner and a debater in a room with a clause that says anything goes, I would beat the living SHIT out of them.  Get your finger out of your ass and get a thought!!!!!

The I am a friend to everyone - gotta love these twisted assholes.  They make nice to get info, they then twist that info and share it with everyone then they blame everyone else.  Put these FUCKERS in the room too!

The show stoppers - Ok.....these people I would love to put in a room with PETA, BUT, the PETA people would have to be blinded and convinced that they will be in a room with fur wearing people.  Show Stoppers are the ones that browse and shop the Internet all day, ironically these people usually make the most money and are always broke.  They are always dressed to the NINES, they will tell you the brand name, cost, date and time of purchase as well as use a tone that screams I'M BETTER THAN YOU.  These over dressed DUMBASSES never have a clue.  Don't believe me?? Ask any one of them for a current event news bulletin.  You know what?  Just ask them who the vice president is.

Commenter's - anonymous ones - HATE HATE HATE HATE HATE THESE MOTHERFUCKERS!!!!  What PUSSY would go on-line to news, blogs or anything where one could leave an anonymous comment and rant off?  Commenter's that's who.  And those are the ones that leave racist, political banter and hate filled comments.  Their IP should be tracked and someone should take their PC or laptop and SHOVE IT UP THEIR ASS!!!!

Yep, useless people.  HATE them!  Bytch fest over.................................................for tonight.

MyThoughts - a revisit - Despising the general public today

AndMore began as my thoughts, at a time when I worked in a company that was big on Customer Service. When you called the help desk you thought people on LSD was answering, that's how happy they wanted you to pretend to be. So I had a lot to say but couldn't and so MyThoughts was created. So as a revisit to MyThoughts, here are my FUCKING thoughts of today.


Maybe I didn't sleep well. Maybe I am just pissed off and don't know it. But I woke with effort and planted a smile on my damn face.

Customer Service - I went to Quick Chek to get cigarettes and the same DUMBASS that seems to be there EVERY time I go to shop was there. A typical high school drop out with the IQ of a Q-tip. Twice before she has made the mistake of angering me, both times because she insists on talking on the cell phone and getting the order wrong.

'Capri - blue box - 120s.' She gives me that deer in the headlights look and keeps talking to what I assume is another high school drop out. She hands me a pack of Camel. I push the box towards her and say 'try again'. She responds 'WHAT?'

'I said, try again. Capri - blue box - 120s', she rolled her eyes at me while still talking on the phone. I don't even know what brand she grabbed all I know is that she went in the wrong direction. She throws a RED pack of something on the counter and glares at me. I give her the finger and walk out.

'I go to the tobacco store in the opposite direction, he always knows what I get and go there far less then to Quick Chek. We chat for a bit. I don't find out till later that my ass has a mind of it's own and dialed a friend in the early morning hours so she can listen to our whole conversation unbeknown to me. 'Sorry MC'.

I get on the bus and the smelliest chick sits next to me. I pray for a coma.

I get to NY and the train is so packed I don't fit in it, I have to wait for another one.

I get to uptown and realize with all that went on I STILL had ample time to get some doughnuts for my co-workers.

1/8 of India works in this fucking store and the only one that speaks English and knows math is home having a baby. I ask for a dozen doughnuts, no coconut flavor, a cappuccino with regular milk. I have a $2.00 coupon and my ID which gives me a 10% discount (which is labeled on the receipt as Senior Discount).

I notice she rang up everything tucked the coupon in the register but did not deduct it or apply the discount. I breathe deep and tell her of her mistake. The HAG gives me a look of disdain and in her language says something. The manager comes over and tells her to void the items and start again. I guess she told him she was capable of math (frankly I don't think school was created when she was a child), they argue, her in their language - him in English. This must be his mother, great Aunt or mother-in-law because the PUSSY back peddled out of that conversation. She stares at the ceiling as if it would calculate for her and she hands me my change.

Not only did she STILL not deduct the coupon or discount she OVER charged me. I call over the manager and tell him "Look, I am all for equal opportunity, but someone as limited as her should be made to fill the sugar bowls. Get her DUMB ASS over here and I will teach her math." He says something to her and she comes over. "That is your CHANGE." She says in broken English.

I throw the box of doughnuts on the counter, I really struggle with myself to make sure I don't throw the coffee at her ignorant face and say, 'What is 10% of $11.00?'...................silence......................crickets.....................more silence.

'You owe me $3.82, I wrote it down for your DUMB ASS!' I slide the number I wrote behind the receipt. The manager at this point found his BALLS and comes over, sternly states something to her and goes to her register to remove MY money. I take a dollar (I am a pretty good tipper when pleased), I aim for the tip bowl in front of her and while she is still glaring at me, I pull it back and say 'MAYBE NOT'.

I go to work and announce that they should enjoy the doughnuts to the fullest since it may be a long time before I can go to that Dunkin Doughnuts.

I should have turned off the alarm this morning and stayed home. I'm just DESPISING today!