Hello Everyone,

October 2015

I love October, not just because it is my birthday month but because the air changes, the season changes, the time changes.

It is when we must embrace the fact that the time change will have us seeing the dark sooner. A time when the trees begin to let loose the leaves, orange, brown and yellow leaves flying about.

It is the time when the ghouls and horrors are seen in decorations, shows, movies and parties.

It is the time when we say farewell to the summer heat, smile toward the cooler weather and wonder of the winter to come.

Happy October! May there be light within you to shine upon the earlier darker hours. May the ghouls and gremlins that ring the door bell make you smile and partake in trick or treat.

May you embrace the change in season knowing... it will bring us back to Spring soon enough.

I have added a tab - Whisper my words, which is a link to my site where I post stories, poems, AndMore events and the Watcher's Journal. Take a peek and enjoy.



March 13, 2012

Watchers Journal... The nitty gritty - relationships. Get your LOVE ON!

So I took a FB toll and writing a blog on 'my' perception of relationships won.  Oh Joy!  Here it goes.  It's my two cent worth, I am not a counselor, psycologist or psychiatrist.  I'm merely an observer...the Watcher.

Love potion #99

'From my hearts desire, I do make it so, and seal it with a kiss.' (Their disclaimer - For entertainment purposes only. Magic supplied by you. from Love Spell by Charmed in Company)
You can't pour a love potion and make them all fall in love.  You can however make a self love potion #inside.  Love yourself without narcissism.  How can you know how to love another if you don't love yourself?
Two parts bitter zero part sugar
You don't need to be healed enough to be worthy of love, but you may need to heal before you're ready for your soul mate. You deserve love, as broken or complete as you are. (from Love Alchemist's notebook by Jessica Shepherd)

Get over it!  Whoever did whatever to you does not deserve the power to change who you are.  Forget them and their predator ways, that will be the best payback.  Most predators don't like being forgotten.
When the charming, loving person is really a psychopath, sociopath, narcissist, pathological liar, cheater, abusive or a bit of each..... GET THE F OUT OF THERE!  Really?? Is there any other advise for that? Think... Sleeping with the enemy (with Julia Roberts).  Than go all Enough (with J Lo).
I sat and wrote some of the complaints I have heard recently by friends, people at work - just about everywhere.... and my take.
He doesn't want to have sex, too tired

No man is too tired to have sex, that's a fact. Even when so exhausted they fall out asleep, junior member there is tapping a thigh and if it could talk it would say 'wassup, how about tonight you do all the work, make it up to you when he's awake.'  A woman can get her libido on just as easily too.

Too tired = something else is going on. Do the elimination process.  See if there is something bothering the person, unresolved issues.  Are you two 'making' time for one another?  If the answer is yes -  Shave it, wax it, Febreeze it, stop whining, bytching, be sensual and if that doesn't work, hire a detective cause those swimmers are breeching another pool.

She nags too much

It's a no brainer. You're not listening. PERIOD. Women don't just nag. They want to be heard, some I agree want to be heard over and over, but that's both genders. Nagging is just a form of Passive Aggressive request. Basically we are trying not to beat your deaf dumb ass by repeatedly asking you to do simple stuff that your brain dead ass should already know how to do.

The ring he got me is too small

Unless he's a Rockefeller or a Gates be grateful you got one. If that doesn't convince you, here's another way to look at it... He wants your selfish ass, take it and run before he realizes what piranha you really are. Seriously???? There are too many hungry, jobless and sick people in this world for me to understand 10K rings and 100K weddings.

She is making this wedding a production

It's your wedding too. Grab hold of your nuts and remind everyone who is paying and what you want. Don't be a miser either. Balance is everything.

I think he/she is cheating on me

We were given instincts for a reason. Unless you have multiple personality or are seriously insecure... your instincts are telling you something so LISTEN.

He/She is cock/pussy whipped

Love these whiners. If a significant other wants to pamper or be pampered, then so be it. As long as there is no berating, denying of rights and/or mistreating I don't see any reason for others to complain. 
If a sex treat is on the plan then kudos for them and it only sucks to be you.  Remembering that some pampering is just awesome goes a long way in relationships.  Appreciating one another is not sexist it's sexy.

Seven year itch

There is no itch. She/he is bored with your azz. Spice it up!  Put a wig on, smack him when he walks in and demand he kiss you for it.  Call her up and tell her in a soft voice all the things you're going to do to her when  you get home.  FOLLOW UP on it!  Get your Paprika ON!

I can't live without him/her

If your weak ass is that dependent then by all means jump off the bridge. Only a socio path wants someone that dependent.
Love is hard work
Love is not hard work.  Building a tunnel, bridge or tower is hard work.  Life or love is not hard, people make it so!

The nitty gritty on relationships is knowing what love is and is not.  It's written best and I have copied it for you here (from Corinthians 13:4):
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
Are you loving yourself, others...love itself?  Get your LOVE  ON!!!